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Most of us have made,,, and failed at our New Years Resolutions... In fact, most don't even bother any more... tired of feeling disappointed and upset at our own personal failures. There is a reason for everything! We need to better explore and understand why this occurs year after year... why we tend to make the same old mistakes and follow a similar path to a seemingly forgone conclusion. There is only one truth which is irrefutable: when what you're thinking or doing isn't creating the result you want... you need to change something! Repeating the same behaviour and expecting different results is Einstein's definition of insanity! To start with: 1. Ask yourself why you think you want what you want? Write it down... all of it. 2. Ask yourself what you will be like when you achieve your resolution? 3. Then... the tough one... ask yourself what has interfered with you achieving your goals previously? 4. Recognise that additional support is required and beneficial in you...

Marital Separation is often the most difficult and challenging time in a person's life...  Help is Here! Are you or someone you know going through a separation? This is often a confusing and stressful time... Most people in this situation have many questions and are concerned about going through the process in an economical, timely and respectful manner. Questions like, What about the children?, Who gets what?, What about support? What do we tell the kids?... need to be answered. Couples often want help to resolve their differences in a respectful manner as quickly as possible so that you can move forward with your lives. Most people don't want this to take a long time, go to court, or spend a lot of money. Mediation is the best way to help you resolve your questions through assisted negotiation. As a neutral third party, I help you develop a solution, called the settlement agreement, which you will both support. This agreement is far more likely to continue to be supported as...

Happiness seems to be an elusive and yet desired state for many. People want to be happy as a direct result of being/feeling unhappy... they may feel that something is missing in their lives or that things are going wrong. Remember my old question... if you don't have what you want in your life, why not? The following are steps to follow which will help you find the happiness you seek: 1. Write down what you are unhappy about. This will help clarify what's important to you and how you describe your personal happiness. Each item on your list needs to be addressed differently than you have previously or else you'll likely keep getting a similar result. 2. Recognize that you have, in some way, contributed to your unhappiness and can therefore do the same to contribute to your happiness! We don't make ourselves unhappy on purpose... so we need to make a conscious effort to contribute to changing that. 3. Make a decision to be happy. You need to allow for room in your mind t...

Mediation is a process where a neutral, unbiased person (the mediator) assists the parties in dispute to negotiate a mutual, supportable resolution that  they have had challenges doing themselves. It is very effective for marital separations. The following are ten reasons why you should consider mediation (also known as alternative dispute resolution or A.D.R.) as part of your separation process. 1. The process is private and confidential. The only information others need to have is put into the resultant settlement agreement. 2. The issues are discussed and decisions made by you, together. Isn't it better that you have input into your own settlement rather than being told by lawyers, judge or well-intentioned family members or friends? 3.  Where children are involved, the focus is kept on the best interests of the children, to develop an effective plan for the children involved.   4. Mediation is typically much faster than going through litigation. 5. An opportunity to ...

We all project our hidden, underlying beliefs into the world. It is a form of a psychological defense mechanism which exists to relieve anxiety caused by those beliefs. An example of this is when we blame someone else for a perception of failure, inadequacy or incompetence. This way, we avoid the discomfort of being consciously aware of our belief in a "self-fault" by keeping those feelings unconscious and  deflecting responsibility to another person. Our mind is the projector... the world is our screen! You may see how this can be a major issue in relationships... each person projecting their "faults" onto the other! ... and we believe what we are projecting really is the other person's issue! Then we gather experiential evidence to justify the projection... often to the inevitable end of separation in the relationship. Because it really is the other person that is the problem! So we may think... This is not evident to the individual, but is usually evident to ...

Why Online Counselling Works 1. Easy to contact . Just email, call or text. (see below)   2. Easy to book . Appointments booked within 24 hours. 3. Easy scheduling .   Book at times that work for you. 4 . Getting help is easier . People who may have a social      stigma,  fears, anxiety, depression or other concerns       may not have reached out before now. 5. Convenient . You can have your appointment without leaving your home, office or hotel      room  using Skype, phone or messaging. 6. Transportation challenges are not a concern - No travel time, gas expense or weather      concerns.   7. Confidential . You conduct your appointments in private, whether at home, office or on the      road. 8. Easy payment. Made by a secured email money transfer. 9. There are no geographical boundaries . Clients can be anywhere in the world. Internet ...

I've written previously on the importance of conscious choice and this information is very helpful in supporting why it's so important. It's like we are watching a show or movie on tv that we don't like or aren't interested in... What can we do? Change the channel! You can choose what to focus on. What we focus on becomes our life... http://lesswrong.com/lw/blr/attention_control_is_critical_for/ Until later, Leland www.CounsellingandMediation.com Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com 705 999 2107 905 510 9177