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12 Reasons Why Mediation Works


Mediation is a process where a neutral, unbiased person (the mediator) assists the parties in dispute to negotiate a mutual, supportable resolution that  they have had challenges doing themselves. It is very effective for marital separations.


The following are ten reasons why you should consider mediation (also known as alternative dispute resolution or A.D.R.) as part of your separation process.

1. The process is private and confidential. The only information others need to have is put into the resultant settlement agreement.

2. The issues are discussed and decisions made by you, together. Isn't it better that you have input into your own settlement rather than being told by lawyers, judge or well-intentioned family members or friends?

3. Where children are involved, the focus is kept on the best interests of the children, to develop an effective plan for the children involved. 

4. Mediation is typically much faster than going through litigation.

5. An opportunity to speak directly to the other person about your issues in a neutral and safe environment.

6. You will learn skills to develop improved communication and cooperative problem solving for the future. This is particularly useful when you have children and need to continue your relationship as parents

7. Often more cost effective and simpler than a court process.

8. Can reduce tensions and alleviate an adversarial atmosphere by encouraging a mutual process.

9. Experience has shown that settlements reached through mediation are far more likely to be supported by both parties than those reached through an adversarial battle. It is an agreement that you have developed together

10. Mediation promotes open and respectful communication.

11. The process allows the parties in dispute to explore their interests and concerns and look at a variety of creative options.

12. Issues of co-parenting, asset division, support and any other issues will be appropriately addressed as required.

When your mediation is complete, a settlement agreement will be prepared for your review so that each will have a clear understanding and record of your agreements created during mediation.

If you know someone who could benefit from mediation or have questions, just call or email for more information.

Until later,
Leland
Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com
www.CounsellingandMediation.com
705 999-2107 (office)
906 510-9117 (cell)

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