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Your Mind is a Projector


We all project our hidden, underlying beliefs into the world. It is a form of a psychological defense mechanism which exists to relieve anxiety caused by those beliefs.



An example of this is when we blame someone else for a perception of failure, inadequacy or incompetence. This way, we avoid the discomfort of being consciously aware of our belief in a "self-fault" by keeping those feelings unconscious and  deflecting responsibility to another person.

Our mind is the projector... the world is our screen!

You may see how this can be a major issue in relationships... each person projecting their "faults" onto the other! ... and we believe what we are projecting really is the other person's issue!


Then we gather experiential evidence to justify the projection... often to the inevitable end of separation in the relationship. Because it really is the other person that is the problem!
So we may think...


This is not evident to the individual, but is usually evident to a therapist. It is impossible to be objective about the function of our own minds. We cannot see what we are denying.

There are methods that can help. To start with, write down issues you believe others have that disturb you.  A "what I don't like about you is" list. Like it or not, many of those issues are evident because of your own sensitivities, often coming from your own underlying beliefs.

This is a process... it takes times working with a professional to sort through the process...Remember, your projection and denial will be kicking and screaming to stop the process... which is why you need to take your time and work with someone who knows what they're doing...

The process brings awareness, understanding and relief. You will have other options open up for you and this changes your life!

Until later,
Leland
Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com
www.CounsellingandMediation.com
705 999-2107
905 510-9117

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