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The Story of the 1970 Concert that Launched Greenpeace October 16th, 1970, 8 p.m. Night has fallen and it’s dark outside the Pacific Coliseum, Vancouver’s largest concert arena, but inside all is bright and tinged with the adrenaline buzz of ten thousand ticket-holders.  A pungent potpourri of patchouli, sandalwood and Acapulco Gold is wafting through the stadium.  My mother, flanked by my fifteen-year-old brother and me, is sitting in the first row of chairs lined up in front of the stage.  Every seat has been taken, and those unwilling to sit in the stands are plunking themselves down in the aisles and on the floor in front of us, with scant resistance from volunteer ushers. Shortly after eight the house lights dim and a raucous cheer erupts as Terry David Mulligan, deejay of local rock station CKVN, saunters onstage.  The whole arena is humming, vibrating with anticipation.  I slip off my chair and slide into the...

Remember the concept that our mind is the projector and what we see and experience in our world is a creation of that which we project? So what does that mean then when we are so easily finding fault in others, but not in ourselves? Our sensitivities must be developed and coming from our own perception which then creates this need to project our discomfort onto others... seeing them as causes of our discomfort.  Otherwise would they really bother us? Would we even notice? If I'm thinking that you're not ok, where is that thought coming from? And why do I care sssooooo much about that and find a need to focus on THAT..... like it's going to KILL me! Remember, follow the thought... Until later, Leland www.CounselligandMediation.co Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com

"Ring the bells that still can ring Forget your perfect offering There is a crack in everything That's how the light gets in." --Leonard Cohen Until later, Leland www.CounsellingandMediation.com Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com 705 999 2107 905 510 9117

My mind is like a steel trap... not in the way that suggests that I have a good memory, but rather in the way that it is limited and myopic in it's focus! Although I try to understand another person's experience and am empathetic, I am limited to relate to another person's perspective in exactly the way that they do. Our ego's job is to differentiate... to demand that we stay at arm's length. It does this in self-protection in order to define itself as being unique and exclusive. How then do we create the sensation of connection? If we know, understand and apply this knowledge we can begin to suspend the innate judgment (based on difference and fear) to allow ourselves to feel more connected. In fact we do not have to create the connection, we have to be aware of the natural process that our egos undertake as use that to our benefit. To not use the judgments that occur a thousand times per second to focus on our separation or differences... to become aware of our e...

This is an interesting piece from Eckhart Tolle on love...  It may help to understand the difference between ego love and the essence of love... worthwhile read... Eckhart on Personal Love Q:  If we’re all one, why do we feel drawn toward certain individuals in an expression of “personal love”? ET:  True love is transcendental.  Without recognition of the formless within yourself, there can be no true transcendental love.  If you cannot recognize the formless in yourself, you cannot recognize yourself in the other.  The recognition of the other as yourself in essence – not the form – is true love.  As long as the conditioned mind operates and you are completely identified with it, there’s no true love.  There may be substitutes, things that are called “love” but are not true love.  For example, “falling in love”…perhaps most of us have experienced it.  Maybe one or two at this moment are “in love”, and those who have experienced it have ...

Ok, for some of us, this is kind of obvious...  Delaying sex makes for a more satisfying and stable relationship later on, new research finds. Couples who had sex the earliest — such as after the first date or within the first month of dating — had the worst relationship outcomes. "What seems to happen is that if couples became sexual too early, this very rewarding area of the relationship overwhelms good decision-making and keeps couples in a relationship that might not be the best for them in the long-run," study researcher Dean Busby, of Brigham Young University's School of Family Life. Busby and his colleagues published their work Dec. 28 in the Journal of Family Psychology. The study was supported by research grants from the School of Family Life and the Family Studies Center at Brigham Young University, which is owned by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, or the Mormon Church. Past research on sex and its link to relationship quality has revealed two d...

Are you in a state of conflict, having struggles, relationship issues, financial problems, confused, feeling helpless, feeling lonely, wondering when something good is going to happen? Many are seeking an answer... the answer... looking for some magical solution to resolve their problems once and for all... maybe winning the lottery? There is an answer that will help! But it takes some effort on your part... but if you're saying I'll do anything... I'll do whatever it takes... anything is better than the way it is right now... If you don't have what you think you want in your life... why not? Call or email me to set up a time when you can begin your path to peace. Until later Leland Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com 705 999 2107 905 510 9117

We all tend to be very rigid in our minds regarding what we believe the world to be as well as then feeling the compelling need to blame others or the situation as the cause of our demise. We can even believe (irrationally) that people who love us consciously create harm to us... this is our ego thinking running wild... trying to protect itself and it's beliefs. We have a subconscious pre-existing conclusion that is often self-sabotaging and then set out on a daily basis to gather evidence to support our sense of reality... We do not set out to do this consciously or willfully. When we are hurt as a result of our efforts, we then need to blame because why would we act in such horrific ways. Why would we choose to harm ourselves? Most of us claim to not know any of these thoughts, not want to explore the belief that we are, at the least, contributing to the existence that we complain about. Healing is not a spiritual act as our spirit knows nothing of what we are doing. Our spi...

Kirk Makin wrote the following in the Globe and Mail March 25, 2011.... One of Canada's best hopes for family-law reform is Ontario Chief Justice Warren Winkler: He is influential, has a track record of reform and has sounded a steady drumbeat for change. And his patience is wearing thin. “At a certain point, let's not adjust any more,” Chief Justice Winkler said from his home in rural Ontario. “This has been studied to death. We have to sit down with a white piece of paper and redesign the system. It has to be made cheaper, faster and simpler, without convoluted rules.” Known for his tell-it-like-it-is attitude, he has heard many complaints from judges and lawyers since his appointment in 2007. “Everywhere I go, there is a constant refrain: The family-law system is broken and it's too expensive,” he said. “My strategy has been to get a discussion going. I'm the bully pulpit. But I get frustrated when not very much happens.” A former trial judge  with a reputation for b...

The secret in learning martial arts is to overcome ones problems and when in a state of humility, to strengthen ones mind, body & spirit. The more difficult of the tasks ahead lies in the acquisition of self-discipline... to enable ourselves to choose what we know of as being beneficial, in spite of what our "minds" may be telling us otherwise. Often easier said than done. It is convincing ourselves of  the value of doing something prior to actually doing it. For example, we can always listen to the excuses or justifications in our head to not do something... like got to the gym, go for a walk, get on the treadmill, go to our designated class... We will always feel better after, say, going to the gym. Most think that it is because of the physical workout... which is partially true... I'm not disputing that. However, what is more important is that we have challenged and defeated that voice in our head that said not to do what brought us joy! For today, be extraordinary...

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Add the last two digits of the year you were born to the age you will turn to this year... For example:           (19) 5    8  (year born) (turning) 5    3  (will be 53 this year)                  10  11 Is the answer 10-11? Ask how I know this!!! Until later, Leland Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com www.CounsellingandMediation.com 705 999 2107 905 510 9117