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Healing... One Mind at a Time



We all tend to be very rigid in our minds regarding what we believe the world to be as well as then feeling the compelling need to blame others or the situation as the cause of our demise.



We can even believe (irrationally) that people who love us consciously create harm to us... this is our ego thinking running wild... trying to protect itself and it's beliefs.

We have a subconscious pre-existing conclusion that is often self-sabotaging and then set out on a daily basis to gather evidence to support our sense of reality...

We do not set out to do this consciously or willfully. When we are hurt as a result of our efforts, we then need to blame because why would we act in such horrific ways. Why would we choose to harm ourselves? Most of us claim to not know any of these thoughts, not want to explore the belief that we are, at the least, contributing to the existence that we complain about.

Healing is not a spiritual act as our spirit knows nothing of what we are doing. Our spirit is about connection, love, nurturing, altruistic caring... it is not about, nor can it be about fear, judgment, guilt, punishment, etc. These are all brought about from our ego needs... our humanity.

The healing that is required is our minds. What we hold in our minds is what we hold in our hands. We project our minds into a reality and then point at that reality as the perpetrator.
I tell many of my clients that the most challenging and difficult part of being in psychotherapy is becoming fully accountable and self-responsible... the other part is allowing an integral connection to occur with another human being without judgment.

If we are then somewhat responsible for our situations, then isn't that the good news???? We can change our lives in a fundamental way. This is not accomplished without challenge and cannot be accomplished on our own... but it can and does occur... one mind at a time.

Until later,
Leland
Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com
www.CounsellingandMediation.com
705 999 2107
905 510-9117
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