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I'm OK... You're Not!

Remember the concept that our mind is the projector and what we see and experience in our world is a creation of that which we project?

So what does that mean then when we are so easily finding fault in others, but not in ourselves? Our sensitivities must be developed and coming from our own perception which then creates this need to project our discomfort onto others... seeing them as causes of our discomfort.  Otherwise would they really bother us? Would we even notice?

If I'm thinking that you're not ok, where is that thought coming from? And why do I care sssooooo much about that and find a need to focus on THAT..... like it's going to KILL me!

Remember, follow the thought...

Until later,

Leland
www.CounselligandMediation.co
Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com

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