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Opening Up





My mind is like a steel trap... not in the way that suggests that I have a good memory, but rather in the way that it is limited and myopic in it's focus!





Although I try to understand another person's experience and am empathetic, I am limited to relate to another person's perspective in exactly the way that they do. Our ego's job is to differentiate... to demand that we stay at arm's length. It does this in self-protection in order to define itself as being unique and exclusive.

How then do we create the sensation of connection?

If we know, understand and apply this knowledge we can begin to suspend the innate judgment (based on difference and fear) to allow ourselves to feel more connected. In fact we do not have to create the connection, we have to be aware of the natural process that our egos undertake as use that to our benefit.

To not use the judgments that occur a thousand times per second to focus on our separation or differences... to become aware of our egos function and not have this interpreted information be a threat to its (egos) existence.

The more threatened our egos become, the more differences we notice and focus on. When we are more relaxed within ourselves, the less our need to sense a threat.

As great as our minds are, we need to recognize the extent to which we can be limited by our own experience, perspective and interpretations.

Start with considering that all of us have our differing ways of looking at things. We may be agreeable on some level, but not able to do this in an absolute manner. Make this the norm. Then, hopefully that will allow you to open up to another possibility, that there is no harm intended by the difference, that it is, in fact, a requirement of wanting to believe that we are individuals and therefore, separate and disconnected.

This, in turn, will create an openness to not being threatened. I encourage curiosity... be curious about another persons experience or perspective, not threatened... and allow for a better sense of connection.

Until later,
Leland

Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com
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