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Many of us have had life changing moments that are occasssionly recalled in positive ways as well as negative ways... Here is one... I was having one of those bad mornings a number of years ago... thinking about bills to pay, dishes to do, clients to see and I HAD to take our son to school... generally telling myself that I was soooo burdened and victimized in my life... All the things I HAD TO DO!!!!! Coincidently my brother called in the midst of the building turmoil in my mind... "Hi, how's it goin?" he said. Well, I let into him about ALL the "problems" and "burdens" I was experiencing, including having to drive my son to school... He responded... "Oh, you mean you GET to take him to school!" My life change in that moment... I do get to, I don't HAVE TO... I choose to... No matter what excuses or justifications I use to explain or experience my self-victimization, I am choosing in that moment. Not because I neccessarily want to but be...

Most people do not like the idea of taking medication... It can be reminder (we think) that there really is something wrong that needs to be corrected rather than, perhaps, an organic dysfunction that is primarily genetic. I am often asked about the use and belief structure regarding pharmaceutical medications for depression and/or anxiety. The litmus test I include in my questioning cover many areas... the first of which is physiological. What is your medical/family history? Has there been or is there evidence of depression or anxiety in other family members? i.e. siblings, parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents... Have you had a complete physical yourself? There are many medical imbalances that can contribute to the way you are feeling, particularly in areas where you may feel less able to cope and manage your life in an effective manner. If you are dealing with an organic/genetic issue then it may be that you have already been trying many different ways to manage the "problem...

What is it that causes us to feel that some things are important in our lives and other things are not? It's also curious that what we hold as important seems to fluctuate over time or is dependant on a particular situation. We are constantly receiving feedback from the world... providing us with information which may prove valuable to become aware of and understand differently, especially when the information is upsetting or we attempt to avoid it! It doesn't fit with our belief structure or it does and we are minimizing or denying the information. Our sensitivity to a specific piece of information is the key to whether we may need to pay attention to it or not... In fact, doesn't it make sense that if something doesn't bother us, we really wouldn't notice it the same anyway? It doesn't feel disturbing or offensive or attacking... it's just information. Say, for instance, someone you don't know so well says something to you about a shirt you're wear...