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What's Important?

What is it that causes us to feel that some things are important in our lives and other things are not?
It's also curious that what we hold as important seems to fluctuate over time or is dependant on a particular situation.

We are constantly receiving feedback from the world... providing us with information which may prove valuable to become aware of and understand differently, especially when the information is upsetting or we attempt to avoid it! It doesn't fit with our belief structure or it does and we are minimizing or denying the information.

Our sensitivity to a specific piece of information is the key to whether we may need to pay attention to it or not...

In fact, doesn't it make sense that if something doesn't bother us, we really wouldn't notice it the same anyway? It doesn't feel disturbing or offensive or attacking... it's just information.

Say, for instance, someone you don't know so well says something to you about a shirt you're wearing. Like... it's the wrong colour for you. They express the information as a simple opinion. You would typically hear that just as information, not as a judgement about you and you do not take the comment personally.

Now, let's say you hear the same comment from someone close to you... and the *!#% hits the fan! You feel offended, attacked, defensive... why? What's the difference?

When you find yourself feeling disturbed or offended, you are feeling that way for a reason. That reason may not be because that person got up in the morning thinking about what they could say or do to you that would upset you... even though it may feel that way... He/she's out to get me... like the boss or co-worker. (This could be a projection of self-victimization!)

All I'm suggesting that if we want to grow, we need to look at our resistance to our "sensitivities" and the possible reasons why those exist. They may lead us to why we consider some things important and not others.... Our sensitivities are there for a reason. Let's make use of them to help us create the positive changes we really want.

Until later
Leland
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