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Geographical Cure


Haven't we all just wanted to "get away from it all!" from time to time in our lives. Those times when a situation seems unsolvable or someone in our lives is being unreasonable or unforgiving or unloving!

Or when the neighbourhood's not right... too noisy, too quiet, too far away, not close enough...


And we think, "I know, I'll move out on my own!" or "I'll move to _______________________". (fill in the blank with your solution place).

Or, "I just need a fresh start"... Or, "I just need to get away from _______________". (fill in the blank with the problem person, place or thing!)

We have many reasonable justifications for feeling frustrated in our particular individual situations. The feelings of helplessness and hopelessness seemingly caused by external sources can certainly lead to that feeling of wanting to get away... to find relief...

I'm not suggesting that it's wrong to want to engage in positive relief behaviours... sometimes counting to ten, taking that perverbial breath, taking a "vacation"... can help us re-position our minds to be able to gain new perspective which may enable a different approach to a problem.

Most of my clients come to me feeling a little frustrated, confused... seeking relief and looking for answers... Sometimes they already have the answers, they need help working with the answers they have... sometimes we need to create, clarify, work out and implement new perspectives...


Learning this process in a comfortable, trusting, non-judgmental place allows you to transfer this new skill set to other areas of your life... so when you do run into problems in the future, you are better equipped to deal with them... and if you are having difficulty with that... you know the advantages of asking for help... when you want to get away from it all...


The problem with most solutions is that they are bandaids and don't deal with the real problem. We often don't want to know the real problem... that's one of the reasons why having someone like me help you is to explore what else may be going on that may be contributing to the problem.

The problem with getting away from it all is that we takes ourselves with us wherever we go! Here's a very good book for children and adults to read...

Alexander And The Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst


might help with your perspective...

Until later,
Leland

www.CounsellingandMediation.com
Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com

705 999-2107
905 510-9117
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