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Valentine's Day


Is this a day of celebration of love in your life? Is it about that special gift? That special person?
For some, it is a day of regret, of loss, of depression...


The kind of love most associated with this day, is typically about romantic love created from our limited sense of what that kind of love is.

We can also look at how much we like someone, how much we enjoy their company, how much we may think of them in their absense, what our personal preferences and tolerances may be, are we comfortable with them, are they our friends, do we trust them, do they have our back?.

All the couples I've worked with, whether through counselling or mediation, have been different to each other... every couple! It shows me that our life partners are supposed to be different (our friends tend to be more similar). It creates a perfect balance... a ying - yang... One is usually more intraverted, the other extraverted; one a thinker, the other a feeler; one sensory, the other intuitive, etc. and it makes sense...

If you were able to have 2 people help you solve a problem, picking people with differing perspectives and approaches will create more information which will help you make a better decision.

The trick (if there is one) is to understand that the differences that attract us in the first place, can become a personal threat or a threat to the relationship. Remember that he/she is supposed to be different and our job is to learn and grow from that difference... to expand ourselves and challenge our tolerances.

Love is available for all. Don't just think about romantic love... think about all love, parents, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Happy Valentine's Day

Until Leland

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