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Misery Loves Company!

We all know this expression... but don't want to admit it, nor say that (sssshhhhh... quietly now) we have misery in our lives.

With the opportunity I've offered for free sessions... I've heard from more than one person, that yah, I've got problems (issues) but I don't want to (not ready to) do anything yet...

We all put ourselves into a postition where we are experiencing discomfort in some fashion or another and then do three things....

1. "I'm not accountable for what I did to put myself here" ("I didn't do it") and....
2.  "There's no other option" ("what are gonna do anyway?") and/or
3.  "It's not going to work anyway" ("It won't make a difference").

Even when viable options are presented to us, we balk at those options and will not consider or accept them as possibilities....

Here's the paradox (do you see it yet?)

If we say we're unhappy, disturbed, unsettled (or however else you may choose to describe your misery) then why wouldn't we even consider alternatives?????????

Try, just for a day, practising acceptance of viable options... just to see. The worst that can happen is that you'll have more information than what you had before trying something different.

Remember that repeating the same behaviour and expecting different results doesn't work.
Let's help ourselves and each other out of this old repetitive pattern!

For those who are begining to understand the theme in my teachings, I'd like to hear from you.
I know that some don't want to know... want to be able to continue to blame and find fault...
Some "get it" on varying levels and are having difficulty with application (the majority of us)
Others occasionally experience peace through application of these principals...

If we are experiencing misery... of course we need a reason(s) for this. Having others collude with our misery is practically a requirement! The scary part is... what if, in our own way, we are all doing this?

Remember... seek out options, consider them, try them out.
Tomorrow... Valentines... love.... hhhmmmmm.

Until later,
Leland

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