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Judgment


None of us like to think that we "judge" (or at last don't like being caught in the act or think we are doing it on purpose). Most of us consider judgment as a form of looking for or creating negative information... typically about somone else. Some use it as a form of entertainment...


Is "judging" normal? What's the purpose of this? What is the fimiliar outcome? Why do we do it... and sooooo frequently....?

Is it a comparison to allow ourselves to feel better? If we are critical or find fault in another person then at least we can say that "we don't do that!" or "look like that" or "aren't that way"... Even in our "positive judgment" we tend to be comparing... noticing differences... Why?

What then draws our attention to "that" in the first place and then cause us to place judgement?

Our judgments allow us to hold our typically thought patterns and beliefs in place.

We construct a sense of reality that we maintain through obtaining ongoing evidence to support that sense of reality. We forget that that evidence is biased due to our interpretation of the reality we construct. Follow?

This is an important recognition in order to alter our circumstances and why our judgments are important to notice. It also can explain why we tend to be repetitive.

When we are able to be more objective, we notice patterns of judgment... themes, if you will, that indicate our personal sensitivities, our inner beliefs.

This is the reality of what drives us, what motivates our conscious behaviours. Our attempt to hold the patterns in place. We develop a familiarity with our patterns and become entrenched with them, support them, believe in them... often to the extent that considering alternatives becomes seemingly impossible.


It takes conscious effort and an act of faith to extend ourselves beyond our patterns of belief. We only need to believe the world to be this way because we don't really understand it and need to feel a sense of control over our chaos.



It makes sense that our judgments then occur for a reason... and I'm not judging that you have judgments! It occurs for a reason.... write down what you feel judgmental about... the patterns... the themes. This information is critical to your fundamental change potential and may provide reasons for the pattern re-occurring.

Until later
Leland

Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com
http://www.counsellingandmediation.com/
705 443 8290
905 510 9117
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