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PRE-MARITAL COUNSELLING Marriages are still failing at alarming rates! Getting married is a decision that effects your whole life and should be considered carefully and thoughtfully. Attending my pre-marital program will allow you to better understand your relationship by developing a practical plan which is specific to the two of you, based soley on your mutual needs and wants. Find out how to get the love you want! You can use your mutual vision for your vows and the rest of your life. Spend 4 hours creating a marriage manual that works… well worth it for a lifetime committment! Call or email today to set a personal appointment. Until later, Leland www.CounsellingandMediation.com Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com 705 999 2107 (office) 905 510 9117 (mobile)

I was asked recently to provide CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) for a client with depression by her psychiatrist... which prompted considerable thought and discussion. I do not believe that, for the most part, depression is something that you can out-think! In fact, believing this can cause more problems and collude with the belief that there is "something wrong with me", "there's no hope", "it's not worth it" and "why bother, nothing will work". To me, using CBT for depression is like using it for diabetes... There is however, a place for CBT in helping people increase their awareness and understanding of their depression and assisting in their recovery. There remains considerable mis-information regarding what depression is, it's cause and it's "cure".  The more I work with people who suffer from depression, the more I seem to realize that it is often more genetic than circumstantial. Most clients have already atte...

None of us want to believe that we would consciously do ourselves harm... in fact, consciously we often focus on the opposite! We want to create positive things in our life. And yet, sometimes harm seems to occur seemingly in spite of our good efforts! When we receive information or feedback that is disturbing in some way it is often an indicator that requires further exploration... Yes, while it remains important to provide ourselves with options in how we respond to situations that are undesirable and to make appropriate informed decisions, it is also an opportunity to look further... to explore what we may be contributing to creating the events of our lives or our responses to those events... Until later, Leland Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com www.CounsellingandMedation.com 705 999 2107 office 905 510 9117 iphone

Fascinating article about some of the genetic history of humans! http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/science/nature/2975862.stm As much as our egos would have us believe we're different... we're really not! Until later, Leland www.CounsellingandMediation.com Leland@CounsellingandMediation.com 705 999 2107 (office) 905 510 9117 (iphone)

It seems to be a kind of insanity to believe that the person in your life that you care about the most can be the most threatening... in a visceral, defensive, hurtful, angry way. It doesn't make sense... really, that they would wake up in the morning thinking of ways to get you that day... and yet, we all can have that gut-wrenching feeling that indicates that that is happening... and then the conflict or struggles begin. We go off into defensiveness and out comes the "you always", "you never", comments or the "ya but you" or "you're not listening" or "you don't get me".... all of these reactions implying an attack of some kind that requires a defensive response rather than asking the basic question. "why is this person saying this?". Here are some ways to address the frailties of a relationship and build strength and connection... 1. Remember that we are connected and if we're not experiencing that, we need t...

SPOUSAL SUPPORT ADVISORY GUIDELINES, ONTARIO DECISIONS [July 10, 2008 - May 13, 2009] http://www.law.utoronto.ca/documents/rogerson/ssag-familylawsummmit2009-app.pdf

Here are some ideas to get you started: Surround yourself with the right people . It certainly makes sense that we are influenced by those people that we surround ourselves with. Remember, we have a choice who those people are!   Choose your friends, not the other way around! Choose supportive, encouraging, honest people who will standby you... for better or worse. People who will gently guide you when you may be off track and encourage you to celebrate when you are on track.   Face your problems .  Problems are the most likely to present the best opportunity to learn the most about yourself and how to develop discipline, courage and confidence.   It is only our perception (misperception) that tells us that a task is too difficult, too hard, we don't have time, we're too tired, there's no point... etc.   In most cases we contribute to the creation of the problems we face in the first place... Start with the decision that you're going to tackle one thing......