What do you find your mind drawn to? What seems to be entertaining you? What do you think about in a more consistent manner? Are we compelled to be thinking in a certain way? Can we re-train our little brains to entertain another possibility? We seem to want to find someone else or a situation to point at and say (with shock), OMG! How could they do that? Look what they did! Look what they're wearing! I'm never going to be like .... _______________ fill in the blank here... (could be my mother, my father, my brother, my sister, like her, like him, like them....) And we wonder why we have conflict????? Let's try to look at the GO sign... not the STOP sign! If your focus seems to want to go where you're not getting positive benefit... you can re-train and consider an alternative. We cannot change our default thinking.... however, we can expand, add and choose a more beneficial focus.