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It seems to be a kind of insanity to believe that the person in your life that you care about the most can be the most threatening... in a visceral, defensive, hurtful, angry way. It doesn't make sense... really, that they would wake up in the morning thinking of ways to get you that day... and yet, we all can have that gut-wrenching feeling that indicates that that is happening... and then the conflict or struggles begin. We go off into defensiveness and out comes the "you always", "you never", comments or the "ya but you" or "you're not listening" or "you don't get me".... all of these reactions implying an attack of some kind that requires a defensive response rather than asking the basic question. "why is this person saying this?". Here are some ways to address the frailties of a relationship and build strength and connection... 1. Remember that we are connected and if we're not experiencing that, we need t...

SPOUSAL SUPPORT ADVISORY GUIDELINES, ONTARIO DECISIONS [July 10, 2008 - May 13, 2009] http://www.law.utoronto.ca/documents/rogerson/ssag-familylawsummmit2009-app.pdf

Here are some ideas to get you started: Surround yourself with the right people . It certainly makes sense that we are influenced by those people that we surround ourselves with. Remember, we have a choice who those people are!   Choose your friends, not the other way around! Choose supportive, encouraging, honest people who will standby you... for better or worse. People who will gently guide you when you may be off track and encourage you to celebrate when you are on track.   Face your problems .  Problems are the most likely to present the best opportunity to learn the most about yourself and how to develop discipline, courage and confidence.   It is only our perception (misperception) that tells us that a task is too difficult, too hard, we don't have time, we're too tired, there's no point... etc.   In most cases we contribute to the creation of the problems we face in the first place... Start with the decision that you're going to tackle one thing......

The Federal Department of Justice announced changes to Federal Child Support Guideline Tables, effective Dec. 31, 2011. The following link will help provide more info for you.  http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/pi/fcy-fea/lib-bib/tool-util/apps/look-rech/index.asp Until later, Leland www.CounsellingandMediation.com leland@counsellingandmediation.com 705-999-2107 905-510-9117

Happy New Year! This is a common sentiment heard by many over the last 6 days. It signifies a marker in time... in our history... that we metaphorically begin... again! An opportunity to make desired change in your life! Are there issues or concerns that you need to be addressing? Things that you have been procrastinating? Not sure of how to approach this new year? I am aware of two truths... when what I'm thinking isn't creating the desired result or outcome, I know that I have to do something different! But... why haven't I already done something different? There is often a significant block indicated by this that needs to be identified in order to move forward with the "something different". It is often a result of a fear of some kind that seems to impair our ability to create a different outcome. This year why not vow to yourself to find out what that may be? Make creating a new plan easier... We have the most say in what will happen in our individual lives t...